You should never leave home without the right gear to face the day. You should also never start dating after a breakup without bringing your best tools to the table. Dating after you’ve been dumped is difficult enough. Doing it without your very best tools and weapons makes it even more challenging.

Don’t let this happen to you. It’s time to bring out the big guns and refine your best flirting efforts. Why is flirting necessary? There are many reasons but the first and most important reason is the little boost of empowerment that the ability to flirt well will give you.

You know what I’m talking about. There’s something almost magical about the batting of eyelashes, a smile full of promise, and a little bit off suggestive banter to give you a rush of power like no other on the planet. When you’re in the zone for flirting well there’s nothing you can’t accomplish.

Oddly enough; it’s true. There are few men on the planet who can resist an attractive woman turning on the charm and shining it in their direction. Use it well but keep it light.

The first date is a time to set the tone for future dates as well as a time to decide whether or not there will be dates in the future. The problem is that many women who are dating after a breakup have forgotten the art of flirting and are sort of lost without it.

Whether it is the side effect of the confidence blow that being dumped provides or something that goes along with being in a long-term relationship and not turning on the charm often enough that allowed this to happen you’re going to have to force yourself to flirt a little while so you can get back in the habit.

It is like riding a bike. Once you’ve perfected it you might be a little rusty at first but it will come back to you. Why is it so important to date? Honestly, it’s as much about you as it is about the guy you’re going out with. He’s going to expect a little bit of flirting. If you’re not sending those signals or vibes, he’s going to think things aren’t going very well.

Don’t leave him hanging like that. Let him have a little bit of comfort and confidence that all is not lost. Even if you have to force it at first, you’ll find it happening much more easily with practice. You can always use the second date for a little additional practice and to brush up on your technique.