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NLP Skills: The Way To Anchor Valuable Resource States

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) supplies a whole range of approaches and methods for effecting change in both your life and the lives of loved ones and everyone else too. If you exercise your NLP skills ongoingly, then you will begin to find that the quality of your relationships and your interactions with other people will improve significantly. Additionally, your NLP skills will help you to be equipped to do things much better and faster.

The subject of this article is resource states, as talked about in the context of NLP skills. Imagine you could wave a metaphorical magic wand and feel any way you wish to feel, as soon as you like. How good would that be!

There are probably countless instances when you would like to be in more effective control of your emotions, but as yet you have not been able to master this skill. For example, a lot of people are very scared of public-speaking. We do not even have to be in the situation. Simply thinking about it can easily bring us out into a cold sweat. We recall occasions when we have been anxious in front of others previously, and we might also use our imaginations to think about all the things that might go awry. And you know what, we are not wrong.

Actually, this is a great example of how skilled we are at state induction. It is something that we have practised over and over, and have got it down to a fine art. However, the resource state we produce is counter-productive.

So, what kind of emotional state would be useful in this circumstance? You would probably like to be peaceful and self-confident. Well, you do already know what it is like to be like this. All you have to do, as previously in negative situations, is to recall all the times when you felt peaceful and self-confident and make it as real as you can. Recall everything about it, from how you was standing, how you were breathing, how you felt, what you noticed and what you heard back then.

Now, if you are imagining that you can’t do this because you have not felt this way previously, then envision how a person who is calm and self-confident would stand, breathe and feel. Maybe this is a person you admire for being this way. When you have achieved the desired state, ramp it up to make it as vivid and appealing as possible. This is where one of your other NLP skills comes into play. This is called anchoring. In this case, an anchor is a trigger for the state change. So, when you are fully experiencing the state such as calm and confident, that you want to re-induce in the future, you could, for example, scratch the back of your neck or squeeze together the thumb and index finger of your right hand; it is your choice. In this way, the chosen action becomes part of the calm and confident state. So, when you do the trigger action again, for example, as you think about or enter the situation where you would previously have been nervous, you naturally enter the desired resource state.
You are almost certainly now recognizing the importance of practising the NLP skills of creating resource states and anchoring. These are NLP techniques that you can apply to all areas of your life. Of course, the benefit of perfecting these skills is that the resulting states will greatly boost your communication skills and have a good impact on the other people that you come into contact with.

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The Fine Art of Flirting: The Perfect Accessory for Dating after a Breakup


You should never leave home without the right gear to face the day. You should also never start dating after a breakup without bringing your best tools to the table. Dating after you’ve been dumped is difficult enough. Doing it without your very best tools and weapons makes it even more challenging.

Don’t let this happen to you. It’s time to bring out the big guns and refine your best flirting efforts. Why is flirting necessary? There are many reasons but the first and most important reason is the little boost of empowerment that the ability to flirt well will give you.

You know what I’m talking about. There’s something almost magical about the batting of eyelashes, a smile full of promise, and a little bit off suggestive banter to give you a rush of power like no other on the planet. When you’re in the zone for flirting well there’s nothing you can’t accomplish.

Oddly enough; it’s true. There are few men on the planet who can resist an attractive woman turning on the charm and shining it in their direction. Use it well but keep it light.

The first date is a time to set the tone for future dates as well as a time to decide whether or not there will be dates in the future. The problem is that many women who are dating after a breakup have forgotten the art of flirting and are sort of lost without it.

Whether it is the side effect of the confidence blow that being dumped provides or something that goes along with being in a long-term relationship and not turning on the charm often enough that allowed this to happen you’re going to have to force yourself to flirt a little while so you can get back in the habit.

It is like riding a bike. Once you’ve perfected it you might be a little rusty at first but it will come back to you. Why is it so important to date? Honestly, it’s as much about you as it is about the guy you’re going out with. He’s going to expect a little bit of flirting. If you’re not sending those signals or vibes, he’s going to think things aren’t going very well.

Don’t leave him hanging like that. Let him have a little bit of comfort and confidence that all is not lost. Even if you have to force it at first, you’ll find it happening much more easily with practice. You can always use the second date for a little additional practice and to brush up on your technique.